Below are seven of these "ideal types" of men that
women are
drawn to, and an explanation as to why these men are
so
appealing. But don't freak out or permanently alter
your
personality if you don't fit into any of these categories
exactly
— women will see right through that.
Ideally, you should exude some traits from each of
these
different categories; in fact, you probably already do.
With a
quick perusal of the list below, you should be in much
better
shape to understand what women are looking for, and
most
importantly, to make sure that you fit the bill.
1. The Romantic Guy
He believes in classic romance. He is constantly
bringing her
flowers and chocolate and lighting candles during
dinner. He
calls her often to let her know he is thinking about her
and
looks into her eyes and tells her how he feels.
Why he is so irresistible: A woman loves to feel
appreciated,
and the romantic guy makes this happen. He uses
romantic
gestures to show her he is thinking about her. As an
added
bonus, she feels free to reciprocate and act on her own
romantic tendencies.
2. The Confident Guy
He is totally secure and sure of himself. He is assertive
in
public and gives off an aura of power and control
(within
reason of course, as the "cocky guy" is not on this list)
. In a
relationship, he doesn't get jealous of other men; he
doesn't
feel threatened by his girlfriend's male friends or co-
workers.
Why he is so irresistible: Women are attracted to
confident men. Consider this: If you think you are
great, she
will probably be influenced to think the same. The
confident
man doesn't seek approval from women, and this
makes them
want him even more.
3. The Artistic Guy
The artistic guy is spontaneous and lives for the
moment.
Often, he will use his creativity to woo her, such as
with a song
he has written about her or a painting he has made for
her.
Why he is so irresistible: Every woman wants to feel
unique
and special. There is no better way to make her feel
this way
than to use her as your muse or your source of
inspiration.
She is intrigued by the artistic guy's creative mind and
especially by the way he incorporates her into his art.
Charismatic, rebellious, smart, and considerate men all
get the girl
The Foreign Guy
He comes from a faraway exotic country; he might
have a
cute accent or a unique way of seeing the world. His
social
customs and everyday behaviour can be a little quirky,
but he
always manages to come off as uniquely charming.
Note that
you don't have to actually be foreign to fit into this
category. If
you are well-travelled or speak many languages, you
might
be able to pull off the charm as well as any sweet-
talking
foreigner.
Why he is so irresistible: Charisma, charisma and
charisma.
There's not much more I can say about this one; it's
just that
mysterious je ne sais quoi that is so alluring. Women
often
choose this kind of guy if they are curious about the
world,
but most of the appeal comes down to a fascination
with
dating someone from another culture
.
5. The Free Spirit Guy (aka
the Bad Boy)
The free spirit guy goes where the wind takes him —
and the
wind usually takes him on some kind of wacky
adventure. He
might ride a motorcycle, or he might skip work to take
her on
a last-minute road trip, but this guy doesn't worry too
much
about the consequences; he just sees where his own
devices
take him.
Why he is so irresistible: Every woman wants a bit of a
rebel
(within reason, of course). She loves his carefree
attitude and
hopes that it will rub off on her too. The bad boy spirit
adds an
element of youthfulness to the relationship and she
loves to
try taming him — although she knows she'll never
actually
succeed.
6. The Intelligent/Witty Guy
He instigates conversations that are intellectually
stimulating
and listens to what she has to say in response. He
makes her
laugh with his clever sense of humour and could make
a
conversation about Gordon Brown seem interesting. He
can
shoot the breeze with her for hours and it will never
get
boring.
Why he is so irresistible: As time goes on, your hairline
may
recede and your buff body may soften, but if you can
keep
her interested, you've won half the battle. An
intellectual
connection is a big part of what sustains a
relationship and if
you can show her that you've got that, she'll be
hooked pretty
quickly.
7. The Considerate Guy
He holds open her car door and pulls out her chair. He
foots
the bill for dinner and makes sure to offer her dessert.
He
always asks her out with reasonable notice and picks
her up at
her door. He is generally sensitive to how she is feeling
and
when she is ready to go home.
Why he is so irresistible: Surprised? You probably think
that
nice, considerate guys never get the woman, but
consider this:
Once a woman has gone through her share of the bad
guy, the
rude guy and the not-calling-her-back guy, she will
likely re-
evaluate her priorities. It takes a bit of maturity on her
part to
realise this, but eventually most girls come around and
realise
that they want a guy who will treat them well in the
long
run.
a word of caution
Don't take any of these character types to the extreme
or try
to be someone you're not — it will be obvious.
The key to success here is to keep in mind why women
like the
character traits outlined above and what kind of
gestures they
appreciate. Then, mix them up and see which of these
traits
and gestures you are most comfortable with. With just
a little
bit of effort, you'll be able to find more than a few
irresistible
qualities within yourself — and accordingly, she'll be
easily
wooed by your newfound individuality.
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