UNDERSTANDING HOW ATTRACTION WORKS FOR WOMEN

ATTRACTION IS DIFFERENT FOR WOMEN THAN IT IS FOR MEN - VERY DIFFERENT The reality is that you CAN stop this negative pattern if you WANT to. But the key is: 1) Understanding how ATTRACTION works for WOMEN. 2) Understanding YOURSELF, so you don't ALLOW yourself to act like a Wussy, become boring and turn a good thing into a bad one... but instead you do the RIGHT things to keep everything on the right track. If you know how to make a woman feel ATTRACTION for you, then you can control your destiny with women. If you DON'T know how to make a woman feel ATTRACTION for you, then you cannot control your destiny with women. Read that paragraph again, and think about it for a minute before you go on. OK, so I mentioned that ATTRACTION is very different for women than it is for men. Different how? What do I mean by that? ...Well, generally speaking, for a woman, ATTRACTION is a PROCESS... not an "event." It happens over time, and it becomes stronger or weaker depending upon how well the man in the situation understands how it works. For a man, ATTRACTION is much more of an "event", meaning that it's either there or it isn't. It really doesn't matter whether or not the woman understands how it works. (As an interesting side note, if a woman really knows how ATTRACTION works, and her intention is to manipulate a man, it usually works VERY well.) So, think of a woman's "Attraction Mechanism" more like a volume knob than a light switch. It's like a fantastic, classy old car that needs to warm up for a long time before you can drive it... not like a brand new Honda that you can start up and get right on the freeway with. Here's a little secret about women and ATTRACTION: If you'll just take a little longer in every situation to AMPLIFY a woman's ATTRACTION, she'll love you for it...and you'll experience rewards that will make the extra time you spent seem like the best investment of your entire life. Here are a few specific tips for you for the "Meeting Phase": 1) Start with something STRONG, not WEAK. When a guy finds a girl interesting, he usually turns into a ball of nervous mush. Then, he usually makes the mistake of letting the woman KNOW that he's nervous and weak. Don't do it. Do something STRONG. Challenge her. If she thinks that she's cool, make fun of her. If she's smart, argue with her a little. If she's doing something, tell her that you could do it better. When you PUSH a little, and show some BACKBONE, she'll push back. That's your sign that the GAME IS ON. If you just chase after her like the 100 other Wussies that have been bothering her this week, you will just be another boring, predictable face in the crowd. 2) Keep the TENSION UP. One of my favorite concepts is " Never let the line go slack." This means that once you SPARK the "chemistry" or "sexual tension", you need to KEEP IT UP. Just because she starts doing things that hint to you that she's interested, doesn't mean that it's time to STOP. Quite the opposite, actually.3) Tease. The word "tease" has a couple of meanings. One of the meanings has to do with doing things that are slightly annoying to get a response from someone. The other meaning is subtly different and has to do with drawing out a response that you want by doing certain things that indirectly trigger it. Do both. If you're about to kiss her, wait until your lips are so close that you can almost feel her... and then STOP. Pull away, and smile. If you want to know how she feels about you, say, "You LOVE me" in a condescending tone of voice, and see how she responds. If she says " NO I DON'T!" in an exaggerated, mocking way, then she probably DOES "love" you. Teasing is fantastic. Do more of it. And here are a few tips for the " End Up" phase: 1) Never become BORING. Being predictable and boring is a cardinal sin when it comes to ATTRACTION. Don't do either. Of course, telling a man not to be predictable is like telling a dog not to hump your leg. Most guys are PAINFULLY predictable. We LIKE being predictable, actually. I get it. But, when it comes to a woman you enjoy, you'd better figure out a way to STOP IT. There's nothing that will kill the sparks faster than her knowing what you're about to do or say. 2) Don't hand over control. Women like men who make decisions and take the lead. Now, I'm not saying that women like men who are overly controlling. What I am saying is that women don't like guys who are always saying things like, "I don't know, what do YOU want to do, baby?" Women don't want men that they can control, so don't be one. 3) Respect yourself and keep your own interests. When a guy meets a woman he likes, he often wants to spend as much time as possible with her. This is natural, of course. But there's a big danger here as well. If you put your life aside for a woman, you will become less interesting to HER. In the long run, it's MUCH better to keep your friends, your interests, and your hobbies, and to spend time doing the things you enjoy...WITHOUT HER. And I think it's VERY important to keep improving yourself as a person, and continue to be a guy that she can look up to and respect. As soon as you start acting like she's going to be around forever, she'll start feeling less and less ATTRACTION for you. THE BIGGER PICTURE Now, as you read these examples, can you see the bigger picture forming? Can you see the deeper message? The deeper message is that you need to understand how ATTRACTION works for women and you need to do those things that keep the ATTRACTION BUILDING FOREVER. Now, where does this all begin? It begins with YOU. And it begins with you learning how to control yourself and your emotions. It begins with you understanding the history of how and why men and women become attracted to each other. It begins with you learning the basics of how to use subtle body language and communication to make women feel ATTRACTION for you.