Women have options. If you have just started dating a
woman, chances are you are wrong if you think her
sole focus is you. She could be dating another man
concurrently, or she could be talking to other men on
This may seem discouraging, but the good news is it’s
easier than you think to obtain her undivided attention.
Here are six ways to keep her interested and have her
choosing you over her other options:
1. KEEP THE MOMENTUM GOING
Perhaps the first date went exceptionally well, and
both of you were feeling a lot of chemistry. If that is
the case, it’s important to keep the momentum going
by locking in a second date in close succession to the
If you wait too long to ask a woman out on a second
date, the momentum can be lost and it can almost feel
like you are having to start all over again.
If you are lucky, the chemistry can be regained, and if
you are exceptionally lucky, you can pick back up right
where you left off. However, you are making it much
more difficult if you lose momentum.
The first, second, third and fourth date should all be in
close succession to each other — one to two weeks
apart at maximum. As soon as you wait longer than
two weeks to lock in your next date, you’re risking a
more aggressive man swooping in and stealing her
away from you.
The same goes for texting; momentum can be lost if
you go longer than a week without texting her to say
2. ENSURE PROGRESS IS MADE
Women look for progress when they are dating
someone. If it looks like no progress is being made,
they consider that a red flag. What does progress look
like? An example would be that after a couple months
of dating, you bring her out with your friends. A few
months after that, you might even introduce her to
Everyone treads at his or her own pace, which is fair.
But, if a woman has been dating you for months and
you have yet to introduce her to any of your friends,
you’re not making any progress.
Some women tend to only date one man at a time, but
other women date more than one man at a time.
Depending on your situation, if she is dating another
man and he is integrating her into his life more
(bringing her to work parties and friends birthdays),
she may end up choosing him over you.
3. LOVE YOURSELF
Women are attracted to confidence. If you are a man
with passions, drive and ambition, you will have her
intrigued. The fact that you love yourself is sexy; it is
one of the sexiest qualities you can offer a partner.
Not only is it attractive if you love yourself, but it is
also important that you love what you do for work and
have interests and hobbies.
4. TAKE INITIATIVE
Many women have a natural tendency to be attracted
to men who take the lead and take initiative. This
doesn’t mean she will never text, call or ask you out
first; she just most likely appreciates it when you take
If she is kept waiting or left wondering, it does not
make her want you more; it makes her want to walk
away. Taking the lead when it comes to planning the
next date or being proactive in your pursuit is a quality
many women value in a man.
5. BE PRESENT WHEN YOU’RE WITH HER
When you are with a woman, it’s important to be
engaged in the conversation. Be present in that
moment; maintain eye contact, smile and ask
questions. Do not look around the room or look down
at your watch or your phone.
6. MAKE HER FEEL SPECIAL
One of the key ways to get a woman to choose you
over her other options is to make her feel special, as
though she is more important to you than any other
options you might have.
As previously mentioned, introducing her to your
friends helps. Another way to make a woman feel
special is taking her on any date that requires a bit of
planning on your part.
If you put thought into a cute date, it makes a woman
feel special; it makes her want to do the same thing for