We all know that the friend zone is one of the most populated places on earth when it comes to dating and relationships... Getting in is quite easy but getting out and elevating to the status of boyfriend requires not just trial and error but pre-planned masterful approaches,which most guys lack. You may have been trying for months to get this girl to notice you; she finally starts paying you attention but you want to get close enough to her in order to tell her how much you like her and maybe get her into your bed; but one day amidst all your efforts to woo (chyke) her she turns around and tells you that you’re such a good friend to her, or worse, “you’re like a brother to me. Your world shuts down as you watch your all efforts trashed... For those of us who dont know what FRIEND-ZONE means...Simply put, a Friend Zone is when a girl decides that you’re her friend,just friends and nothing more, you’re no longer a dating option. You become this complete non-sexual entity in her eyes, like a brother.Maybe a confidant or a chat pal.
You may get a few cuddles, a full 360 degree hug every now and then but you’re always going to be ‘just like a brother to her’ while she dates every other guy. And I know this is not where you want to end up.
Below are a list of wrong moves you may be probably making with that girl that will surely get you into her Friend Zone in less than week:
1. Getting too close: if this is what you are doing right now in an attempt to win the girl over then I’m sorry for you. It’s wrong! Avoid this like you avoid LASTMA in Lagos highways. Most guys go to the extent of letting the girl go through the chats on their mobile phones just to get the girl comfortable with them. With time, she’ll start seeing you as one of her girlfriends.
2. No attraction: if after meeting her you don’t spark off any chemistry/feelings in her, then, Friend Zone awaits you. Whenever you hear a girl describe a guy as “just there” or “just an ok guy,” you should drop everything you’re doing then and start praying for the guy because that is the beginning of the end for him.
3. Becoming her best friend: so, you watched this movie where a certain guy who was always there for a girl never gets to date her. The girl gets hurt, gets advice from this dude who is her bestie and goes back to her boyfriend. At the end of the movie, something romantic happens and the girl finally falls in love with the guy who used to be her best friend. Wow! What a super story! And that’s why it’s called a movie.
In reality, you will always remain her best friend and nothing more. You can never get into a girl’s pants or become her boyfriend by becoming her best friend. You’re not Majid Micheal and I bet she’s not Yvonne Nelson.
By now the question probably going through your head is:
HOW DO I AVOID BECOMING JUST A FRIEND TO HER AND GET HER TO SEXUALLY DESIRE ME?
This can be very tricky especially if you’re already into the dreaded zone and knowing that your friendship is at stake here. Well, here are a few guaranteed pointers that will keep you out of the Friend Zone today:
This can be very tricky especially if you’re already into the dreaded zone and knowing that your friendship is at stake here. Well, here are a few guaranteed pointers that will keep you out of the Friend Zone today:
1. Make the right first move: the first moves are as important as the finishing moves. When approaching a girl or talking to a girl you like very much, you need to make calculated moves. Falling in love/lust is not by fate. All happily married couples and players always plan their moves ahead of time.
When meeting her for the first time, be confident, make sure you make her laugh and when she does, get her number and leave at once. Don’t linger for too long. And try as much as possible to avoid her when friends are around her. You can’t really hit on a girl when she’s surrounded by friends.
2. Pass your message the right way and on time: In my former post, I said something about adding sexual-connoted words in your discussions with any girl you want to get intimate with. Now is the perfect time when such conversation is needed.
When you find her alone, show up and talk with her. If any of her friends comes around when you’re with her, jokingly say something like, “just when I thought I could spend some time with you, she comes up out of nowhere!” and make a funny face. This will get her confused and wondering if you’re really joking or serious.
The point is to give her a hint that you like spending time with her alone. Now, that’s sexy and indicates some serious interest. It will get her thinking as you haven’t told her anything yet about how you feel.
Another example is to flatter her creatively while passing your point at the same time. If she dresses up nicely, tell her she’s hot. If she catches you staring at her hips or cleavage, just blush, say you’re sorry and tell her that you tried but couldn’t resist it. Keep it light and funny but pass a sensual connoted message just as I explained earlier .
3. Act like a man: in your attempt to get her to sexually become aware of you, make sure not to become her puppy and do everything she wants. This will have the opposite effect and give you a straight admission into the friend zone.
Make her feel special only when you’re with her. Hold her hands when you cross the roads, hold the doors open for her. Buy her small special gifts not because she asked for it but because you want to surprise her.
I remember once when I got a small cute book of nursery rhymes for a girl, I bought crayons and customized the write-ups to suit her, putting our names in appropriate lines and gently cancelling parts that didn’t match and drawing smileys on the pages. I read it for her when we were all alone in her room…the rest is history.
The point I want you to get is that women will always rant about how they want a caring man who responds to their every wish but if you become that man, they will lose every respect for you and put you in the zone.
4. Never tell her how you feel: don’t think that was a mistake or a typo. On no account should you go about ranting to a girl about how much you love her and can’t sleep at night because of her. This will put the girl on a defensive and will make her want to say no and automatically start avoiding you.
Before you even start thinking about telling her all those sweet stuffs you’ve memorized, always make sure that she has in more than 5 ways revealed or told you that she’s falling for you first.
The Friend zone is where no man ever wants to end up with a woman. I know because I’ve been there.So i dont want you to make the very simple but deadly mistakes most guys make,thats why i brings you this article. Every man should be ahead of his game!
The Friend zone is where no man ever wants to end up with a woman. I know because I’ve been there.So i dont want you to make the very simple but deadly mistakes most guys make,thats why i brings you this article. Every man should be ahead of his game!
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